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!!..Good Bye My Love..!!
"You can't change a man" is one of the oldest cliches in the book.
Well, we just discovered some news that challenges that notion, and it
comes from an unlikely source: animal trainers.
Males are card-carrying members of the animal kingdom, and they exhibit a lot of the same behaviors as many other mammals
Read on and you will soon be able to teach him some new tricks.
#1 BOYFRIEND BUMMER: He's Allergic to Chores
Indulge His Playfulness
✭As Used on Chimpanzees. These primates are big mischief makers, so getting them to calm down can be a real challenge.
Luckily, if you indulge their silly side, you have a good shot at getting them to pay attention. "When we need the chimps to
perform a task, we get on their level and play with them for 5 or 10 minutes,"
Once they've had some fun, they're more willing to heed commands because
they instinctively know it's their turn to return the favor.
✭Apply It to Your Guy. No matter how old they are, men never quite lose touch with the playful, naughty boy within.
Too bad they often pick the worst times to bring out that brat -- like when you're running late for work or need them
to do something around the house. To get what you need done, "indulge him with a few minutes of acting goofy,
Then tell him you'll finish playing with him later, as long as he takes out the trash or does whatever else
you need him to do. Since his mind and body are now surging with feel-good chemicals from your brief,
fun exchange, he's less likely to wrinkle his nose at the request . Use this technique consistently and,
over time, he'll be less likely to associate chores with drudgery.
#2 BOYFRIEND BUMMER: He Lacks Social Graces
Reward the Good, Ignore the Bad
✭ As Used on Dogs. Pre-training, a pup will sniff crotches and paw at people's legs. The instinct is to shoo it away,
but that only makes it want to sniff and paw more. Instead, trainers reward the dog when it behaves
and ignore any actions they don't like . Since dogs crave affection,
begin to avoid bad habits and opt for good ones.
✭ Apply It to Your Guy. Perhaps your man could use some finessing when it comes to social situations too -- say,
to curb his habit of telling off-color jokes. When he engages in unseemly behavior, your immediate reaction
might be to tell him to knock it off already. But that tactic invariably falls on deaf ears.
Men don't want to be treated like children, and if you correct him, he'll feel like you're mothering him.
Instead, ignore him when he's being obnoxious, and give him some PDA (think a kiss or a tap on the bottom) when he's acting sweet.
Since guys, like dogs, aim to please, he'll instinctively begin to avoid the behavior that makes you freeze him out.
One caveat: Timing is crucial. Be sure to reward him at the exact moment he engages in a positive behavior;
otherwise, he won't be able to make the appropriate connection.
#3 BOYFRIEND BUMMER: He Bolts When You Argue
Keep a Cool Head
✭ As Used on Horses. Beneath the powerful stallion exterior lies a skittish animal. That's why they
generally respond well to a calming voice and touch from trainers.
✭ Apply It to Your Guy. Like horses, men seem to be hardwired to want to bolt at the first sound of irritation.
So even if he's been working your last nerve, try to approach him in a cool, collected manner (remember, as hard as it sounds,
this is all going to benefit you in the end). For instance, if you are mad that he hasn't been planning enough date nights
or can't stand when he forgets to call while he's out, your instinct might be to yell or get huffy. Instead, keep your composure by
taking a few minutes alone before you approach him, then speak in a quiet, even-toned voice. "Calmly telling him
what he did wrong will make it easier for him to tune in to what you're saying," . Touch also plays a crucial role
in this scenario: Place your hand on his as you speak. Not only does this buffer the blow of your words,
but it also mimics the comforting way a trainer strokes a horse's mane to calm the animal down.
#4 BOYFRIEND BUMMER: He Stands His Ground
Use Proper Body Language
✭ As Used on Cougars. When trainers want a cougar to bend to their will, they find a middle ground.
Instead of trying to submit or dominate a cougar, trainers try to form a cooperative relationship.
They walk tall with squared-off shoulders. This stance ensures that the trainers don't look
like prey but they're not threatening either.
✭ Apply It to Your Guy. Even the most liberated guy can feel emasculated by a fearless chick. So when you're having a
sticky conversation with him, he might be unconsciously bristling at your body language. If you're standing really close to him
with your hands on your hips and your feet wide apart, he'll get defensive and instinctively want to fight back.
Similarly, if you stand meekly and tilt your head while talking to him, he might take it as a sign that you're too submissive.
The best way to stay on equal ground is to stand with good posture, your head up, and an open frame so he sees you
as being on the same level as he is. This way, he'll be more apt to want to talk things through with you.
#5 BOYFRIEND BUMMER: He Won't Drag Himself Off the Couch
Approach Him at the Right Time
As Used on Lions. Lions are, in a word, lazy. According to trainers, they sleep for up to 20 hours a day and
only move when they see it as beneficial to themselves. Trying to get a lion to do something when it's in resting mode can be
very difficult and even dangerous.
That's why we make use of the animal's active time instead of trying to force it into doing
something it doesn't want to when it's chilling.
Apply It to Your Guy. A man in veg-out mode is unlikely to move no matter how much you try to engage him.
You have to gauge when he's in a productive mood and then pounce to get him to do what you want.
If you notice that he prefers working out in the morning, that's a good time to ask him to help you clean when he's finished.
If you need something done during his downtime and don't want to wait, bribe him. Motivate him by making it worth his while.
When you feel like you haven't been able to have a heart-to-heart but he's in a coma in front of the TV,
try plying him with his favorite snack. If his cravings for the food outweigh his interest in the TV, he'll eventually cave.
#6 BOYFRIEND BUMMER: He's Not Romantic
Take Baby Steps
As Used on Elephants. These mammals can learn a variety of tasks but only on an incremental timeline.
A trainer would never expect an animal to learn something without teaching it how to do it.
For example, if trainers want an elephant to paint as part of a circus act, they'll first show the animal how to curl
its trunk around the brush. Next, they'll have it dip the brush into the paint. Only then would they show
it how to create brushstrokes. Animal trainers call this process of using small steps "successive approximations."
Apply It to Your Guy. The average guy is plenty romantic, but he's not hardwired to plan out the little details.
So if you can't remember the last time he put together a romantic night for you both, you'll have to show him the way.
Start by staging your apartment with cues that get you going, like candles and a sultry soundtrack. Have your
favorite chilled wine on hand so you can ask him to open it before dinner. This creates a ritual in his mind.
Eventually, not only will he get a sense of what your romantic needs are, but he'll also start making a game plan of his own.